You’ll get used to it!

A person sitting on the ground in front of water.A southerner waking up that first morning in Wisconsin, I was sure I had mis-heard the weather forecast: “-25 deg with wind chill factor.”  Whatever that was. Surely not – people couldn’t survive that!  I switched to another channel.  Sure enough, it really was  -25 deg with wind chill.  Certainly businesses were closed.

A person sitting on the ground in front of water.

But they weren’t.    Soon I saw neighbors faring forth, picking their way down the sidewalks.  Still incredulous,   I layered on most of  the clothes I owned, and slipping and sliding, eked  my way to the bus stop where  people  stood around casually talking or sipping steaming coffee from mugs,  like nothing was amiss.
A person sitting on the ground in front of water.
“Is it always LIKE this?” I chattered to the woman nearest me, hands jammed in pockets, feet stamping for warmth.   She flashed a knowing smile.  “You’ll get used to it,” she said.

And I did.  Which was a good and proper thing if I planned to stay in Wisconsin.

But “getting used to it” isn’t always the answer.  In fact, I’m wondering if it isn’t at the root of some of the turmoil in our country today.

For starters, when did interrupting not only become acceptable, but commonplace?  There is hardly a “news” show that doesn’t sound like a magpie convention.  This obviously rude and irritating behavior is now widespread, and since more and more anchors  adopt the practice,  apparently worthy of emulation.

A person sitting on the ground in front of water.And  when did it become OK for politicians  to  lie  on prime-time TV?  When did we “get used to”  leaders that had nothing more to offer  than insults for their opponents and end up voting for  the lesser of the evils?   How would John Kennedy’s clarion call be received today? “Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.”

A person sitting on the ground in front of water.

I greatly fear we have lost our respect for each other and with it, our self-respect.   Perhaps  our cellphone-internet addictions have so immersed us in a  web-game-world of noisy anger and violence,  glorifying an insatiable need for power, appearances and possessions,  that we have come to believe that what matters is what the internet sells: the illusion of individual power.   In other words, “F You!”  But that is foolish. Our lives are utterly and eternally interlinked by immutable laws of nature. No  cell phone or internet game will change that.

And speaking of the “F” word,   when our kids were in college (OK, it was the nineties)  the commonplace word “suck”  was considered inappropriate in polite conversation, although its genesis was and still is,  disputed.  Use of the “F” word in public was practically unheard of.   Now it  is openly bandied about by teenagers in restaurants and  peppers conversations in popular TV shows.  Ironically, it is especially popular with young women.  Really?  Have we forgotten the connotation of the word for women?   And what if someone else simply doesn’t want to hear it shouted out on the street?   Wikipedia calls this phenomenon the “dysphemism treadmill, meaning former vulgarities become inoffensive and commonplace. Or simply, we “got used to it.”

So take it or leave it, but from where I stand, disrespectful language and behavior are just that, disrespectful.  And if  we allow ourselves to get used to disrespect, can abuse be far behind?   Don’t we deserve more?

6 thoughts on “You’ll get used to it!

  1. Amen! Your posting echoes the many thoughts I have had over the years. We (ie the world) has lost Respect period. Weather it is the talking heads on what was once news shows where they don’t let each other get a word in especially if it doesn’t match their leanings, to the Presidency once an office holding more respect than those ruled by Kings or Queens. Thank you for making me aware I was not alone in my beliefs…. Oh and and after two decades in the Alaskan wilderness (-42 my lowest temp) one does get used to the cold, have a great day!

    1. Many of my friends agree with you. Maybe one person at a time, one act at a time, we make an impact. At least we don’t add to the problem.
      -42!!! Wow! Not sure I could do that one. Brrrr.. Thanks for your comment.

  2. You have read my mind! I am hoping that the disrespect and vulgarity we see and hear in public and on television will eventually be replaced with courtesy and respect for one another. It is time for it cycle around.

    1. Thanks, Janice. BTW in Margaret Atwood’s book “The Handmaiden’s Tale” there is a scene in which the women who are being abused are told “You’ll get used to it.” A friend said he burst into tears when he read that. Serious stuff.

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